Love Long Distance…….can it work?

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Waiting for the Don Williams concert to start!

This October began a challenging phase of my relationship with my sweetheart.  He was offered and accepted a position in sunny Florida while I am in sometimes snowy (though currently not at the moment, thank goodness!!) snow daySouth Dakota.  According to MapQuest,  the shortest route from here to there would take 33 hours and 17 minutes based on current traffic.  Needless to say, we don’t get to see each other too often.

While I am perfectly capable, for the most part, of taking care of myself, my kids, my pets, my house and my yard, it is definitely nicer with someone here to help me out.  We “get” each other like nobody else does.  We share a lot of interests, although I guarantee I will NEVER be a fan of NASCAR and my tolerance of football extends to watching most of the commercials during the SuperBowl game and maybe a few minutes of the actual game 😉   I love my flowers and my garden  and relish the moments when I see a new bud on a flower or vegetable plant and Todd enjoys the flowers, but not the process of planting, nurturing and caring for the gardens.

Life would be dull if we were identical, so I am grateful for our differences, but I relish our shared joys, like:

  • movie dates (with the popcorn bucket….yum yum!),
  • reading (I gravitate towards the spooky stories of Stephen King and Todd is more of a learning and leadership type of guy)
  • concerts (we’ve seen quite a few already, from 3 Doors Down and Daughtry
    With Daughtry and 3 Doors Down....gotta LOVE that!!

    With Daughtry and 3 Doors Down….gotta LOVE that!!

    to Loretta Lynn and Willie Nelson) (ok…..Willie Nelson I went to see begrudgingly, but for an old guy, he really did put on an excellent show!)

  • music (goes hand in hand with concerts, right?!)  I think my taste may be a bit more eclectic ranging from rock to country to showtunes, but we both enjoy listening to music while completing everyday chores and activities.
  • Chocolate Chip/M&M Cookiescookies – I love making them and he loves eating them 😉  

So, now that I’ve found my Mr. Wonderful and decided my future will be with him, what’s a girl to do when he’s over 2100 miles away?

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Last year’s Christmas party. We’ll be celebrating together again at this year’s party, and will have to make this visit our “Christmas” together since we won’t be spending the actual holiday together this year.

I think we have to be creative.  The other day I was lamenting the fact that the Nostalgia Movie Series that we’ve attended for the last 2 years will not be a possibility in 2014.  I was moping around feeling sorry for myself when I came up with an awesome idea.  We can still HAVE movie night, just not at the local theatre.  I asked Todd and he was all for the idea of either renting or finding the same movies on Netflix and watching them together on Sunday evening (you know, “When Harry Met Sally” style! 😉 ).    That got me thinking that I KNOW I’ve seen other great ideas for “long distance couples” so I decided to do some research.

In doing so I found Loving From a Distance, probably the BEST website about long distance relationships I’ve seen.  Their website has a list of 103 things to do from a distance and the #1 thing on the list is to watch movies or tv shows simultaneously!  Gosh, I guess great minds think alike!

One of my favorite pictures of Todd and I.  Totally relaxed and having fun together! :)

One of my favorite pictures of Todd and I. Totally relaxed and having fun together! 🙂

Another great idea on their list is to get a book of questions for couples and answer that.  It prevents conversations from being boring and getting in a rut and helps you to get to know the other person better.  It’s a win-win opportunity for interesting conversation.  We actually have a book like that, but haven’t used it in a while.   I’ll have to brush the dust off of it and start using it again 😉

Really, though, I think that it IS possible to make a long distance relationship work.  Todd already has two trips planned, one in December (in just a couple weeks…yay!) and one in January for his milestone 50th birthday!!  I’m planning a trip to Florida next Easter with my two youngest kids and then God-willing, he will be making the long trek back to South Dakota not too long after his daughter graduates in May.

Christmas 2012.....the gang's all here!

Christmas 2012…..the gang’s all here!

So, to answer my question above, I believe love long distance CAN work when both of the parties are committed to the relationship.  I have faith that we will make it through this time and will appreciate each other even more because of it.  I don’t want to wish my life away, but I will be thankful when he is back “home” again with me!

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About Beth W.

I try to look for the positive in the people and situations I come in contact with! I believe in the power of positive thinking and I believe that even challenging circumstances can be learning experiences if we have a positive mindset! I'm having fun blogging at: http://picturingpositive.com
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10 Responses to Love Long Distance…….can it work?

  1. Great post! Just remember, although you are far away in miles, you are still close to each others heart. Stay positive and cherish the moments you have together. Best wishes!

    • Beth says:

      Thanks so much! I’m doing my best to keep my positive state of mind. I know that this too shall pass and everything will work out the way it is supposed to in the end. I appreciate the kind words 🙂

  2. My heart goes out to you in this tough situation. True love conquers all. It sounds to me like you have your true love. It may not be easy all of the time, but I believe you can make it work. You have defintely done your research and found a lot of good tools. Hang in there!

    • Beth says:

      Thanks so much Erika! I think I have definitely found my true love……it just sucks that we can’t be together right now. He is worth waiting for, though 🙂 I’m very grateful for your kind words of support!!

  3. Telephone calls, skype, e-mails, snail mail – so many ways to stay in touch. You’ll make it work!

    • Beth says:

      Yes, there definitely are many ways to stay in touch, and lucky me, I get to see him next week for a few days! Gotta celebrate those opportunities! 🙂 Thanks so much for the encouragement!

  4. wildflower says:

    Hi Beth thank you for liking my first Weekly Photo Challenge Entry: Let there be light. 🙂
    As to your question if long distance relationships work, YES they do! My love story is my proof 🙂
    Just have faith 🙂

    http://wildandfreeandme.wordpress.com/2013/11/17/championing-a-long-distance-relationship/

  5. Pingback: CHAMPIONING A LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP | wildandfreeandme

  6. Kanerva says:

    You nailed it in the last paragraph – it really is a mutual decision / action. The Engineer and I did it for 3 years with a 7 (or 9, depending on the time of year) hour time difference – we’re all the better for it. You’re starting with the right attitude, and while it’s never easy, you’ll be fine 🙂

    • Beth says:

      Thanks for the words of encouragement! A 7-9 hour time difference would be a MAJOR challenge! I’m so glad you were able to make it work. I think as in your case, we’ll be better for it and will definitely appreciate each other more when we can be together in person!!

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