How can you be positive with “haters”?

Yesterday was a tough day for me.  I woke up in great spirits, went to church and was looking forward to meeting up with a friend for a walk/hike.  I opened my email and saw I had a blog comment to moderate.  Because I have met with mostly positive people in my little blog world, I was looking forward to seeing what this visitor had to say. 

When I opened it, I learned this person had nothing nice to say at all.  The comment was cruel and hateful, especially coming from someone that has never met me. I do not claim to be perfect and I have as many flaws as anyone else.  It hurt me a lot, so the intended purpose was no doubt served.

What can I do to get past this I asked myself yesterday (and last night and today). I decided to let it go and move on. She doesn’t know me and maybe if she did she wouldn’t hate me so much. Or maybe she would. I am not going to worry about it. I decided to change my attitude and I remembered my silly little sticker that is at the top of the page.

I mowed my lawn, planted some bulbs and plants that arrived in the mail and transplanted some plants about the yard. It was good physical work and great for my spirit. 😊

About Beth W.

I try to look for the positive in the people and situations I come in contact with! I believe in the power of positive thinking and I believe that even challenging circumstances can be learning experiences if we have a positive mindset! I'm having fun blogging at:
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8 Responses to How can you be positive with “haters”?

  1. Irene says:

    So sorry about your cruel comment. You are so right that it is impossible to please everyone. I feel sorry for the person who latches out at someone they do not even know. Praying for that person and you as well. 😊

    • Beth W. says:

      Thank you Irene. I think it is definitely not a possiblity to always make everyone happy. I also agree that anyone who finds pleasure in degrading other people could surely use prayers. Thank you so very much for visiting and taking the time to comment 🙂

  2. Raw Writings says:

    Sorry you experienced this cruelty. I have endured the same thing. For every 40 wonderful comments, it seems like there is one hater. But, you’re right; they don’t know us at all.

    • Beth W. says:

      I’m sorry you have dealt with that too. I always think of the quote from Bambi, “If you can’t say something nice, don’t say nothin’ at all.” 😉

  3. Mama Cormier says:

    I hope you deleted the comment and marked it as spam. I had someone who said the most horrible things about my art and then started to criticize my husband’s art. This person was no one that I knew and wasn’t a regular follower. My friends and blogging friends were very helpful and gave me the confidence to continue making art. I’ve sold my art in public galleries so I don’t know why this one hater affected me so much. After marking the comments as spam a couple of times I haven’t received anymore comments from this person.

    • Beth W. says:

      I’m so sorry that you had that happen to you. I don’t understand why some people only feel good by tearing others down. I did delete the comment after almost a day of it being posted. I realized too late that by responding to her, I approved the comment. The art that I have seen of yours is lovely, so my guess would be that the negative comments were out of jealousy. I know it is difficult to disregard the negative and it really got to me too (and honestly still comes into my head sometimes), but I do believe there are more positive people in the world than negative and your wonderful comment proves that to be true!! Thank you so much for reading and for the nice comment! 🙂

  4. janieleeds says:

    Wow Beth, I’m so sad to hear about the cruel comment. I’ve been blessed to only have kind people write to me, but there are trolls out there who aren’t nice. Don’t allow one bad apple to destroy your joy. We are all here to grow with positivity with you!

    • Beth W. says:

      Thank you so much, Janie! I’m happy that you’ve had only kind people so far and hope it continues that way! ❤ This was my first awful comment, but I believe it is because of what she "learned" secondhand about me. It got under my skin, for sure, but the positive people outnumber the negative, so I am (mostly) letting it go 😉

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