Expand Your Horizons

Last week my honey and I went to see “The Book of Mormon” at our local civic center. I discovered that night that this would be the first musical he has ever seen. He hasn’t even seen Sound of Music….crazy, right?! 😅 He was a good sport and even though I know it wasn’t his thing, he accompanied me and I think he may have even enjoyed it just a teensy bit. 😅

Last night, I joined him at a Queensrÿche and Judas Priest concert. My musical taste is fairly eclectic, but metal is not my music of choice. In fact, when my sweetie and I were first communicating, I questioned if it was worth continuing to get to know each other once I found out metal was his favorite genre. Sometimes I am guilty of what Cognitive Behavior Therapy calls “fortune telling”. It refers to predicting a negative outcome without realistically considering the actual probability of that outcome. Imagining a future of screaming metal songs blaring in the background was definitely not a realistic outcome. My daughter challenged me that evening when I said I didn’t think we were compatible. She provided a voice of reason for me and said that it was just one thing and if I liked everything else about him, I should give the relationship a chance.

I am very glad I took my daughter’s advice. My honey has introduced me to songs by metal bands that are a bit less head banging than what he generally listens to. We even started a shared playlist on Spotify where we add songs to expose each other to new musical tastes. Through that playlist, I discovered a song from Queensrÿche that I liked and ended up listening to and adding a couple of their songs to my personal playlist.

Variety’s the very spice of life, That gives it all its flavor.

William Cowper

When I saw that Queensrÿche and Judas Priest were touring, I thought, “fair is fair” and decided that I needed to expand my horizons and so I got tickets for the concert. I prepared for it last night by dressing in my best “rocker chick” outfit. I actually enjoyed Queensrÿche even though I’m sure the pulsing volume did a little damage to my eardrums.🎵🔊🎶While Judas Priest is an extremely talented band, they are a bit too heavy for my taste. Even so, I am glad, that I saw the show.

In the time we have been together, I have come to appreciate our differences as well as our similarities. Variety is the spice of life, after all and it keeps life interesting. I’m looking forward to the future and the new things we can learn from each other. 💕


About Beth W.

I try to look for the positive in the people and situations I come in contact with! I believe in the power of positive thinking and I believe that even challenging circumstances can be learning experiences if we have a positive mindset! I'm having fun blogging at: http://picturingpositive.com
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3 Responses to Expand Your Horizons

  1. usfman says:

    Good luck in sustaining this give and take approach that likely sustains a successful relationship.
    Maybe I should see “Metal” as well from a different perspective.

    • hbsuefred says:

      Yeah, I might have thought that our shared tastes in entertainment might have kept idiot ex and I together as they had been a part of what brought us together in the first place. Turned out, at the end, it may have been the only thing we shared. It was certainly just about the only thing that brought us together in the same space by then and clearly nowhere near enough to keep our marriage going. Anyway, if I ever do decide to pursue a “match” of the opposite gender again, it looks like this shared interest should not be high on my list of “must haves”!

      • Beth W. says:

        Yeah, kind of the same thing with my ex. We both enjoyed the same kind of music and I thought many other things, but looking back I don’t really know what was true since apparently so much of our relationship was a lie. I decided that following the same path as last time might not be the best idea.

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