I’d love to hear from you, but please don’t call me.

A Cisco 7960G IP telephone

A Cisco 7960G IP telephone (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

I have a confession.  I really really really (with emphasis!!) don’t like to talk on the telephone.  There are many out there who would and sometimes do talk for hours on end about things both big and small, important and trivial.  My Mom and my Aunt Nora talk on the phone every day and their days are incomplete unless they connect over the phone.  I’m not one of those people.  Unless there is something that absolutely has to be done or an appointment that must be scheduled, I could go for days without picking up talking on my phone.

I use my phone throughout the day for listening to my iTunes, texting, checking movie times and checking on my blog.  It is also my alarm clock and wakes me up every morning with Bob Marley’s “Three Little Birds” when I don’t get up before that and turn the alarm off.   I really like my phone, and I like the people who I have to talk to on it.   I think part of the reason I’m not a big “phone person” is the fact that I don’t care much for small talk.   I love a good heart to heart, but I prefer to talk in person instead of on the phone.  Maybe old age is creeping up on me, but I sometimes don’t seem to be able to hear people very well on the phone.   I have real trouble with people using the bluetooth devices.  Sometimes while I’m trying to talk to someone who is using one of those, I might as well be talking to someone inside a tunnel who is talking with a mouthful of cotton.   While I’m trying to understand what the person just said to me, said person goes quiet, waiting for my response to a question that was apparently asked.  Awkward silence ensues until I finally have to admit that I didn’t hear and have no idea what was said.

For me, the telephone is best used a little bit at a time to convey pertinent information to another person.  Tell me what/when/where/who/how long?  That’s all I need to know.   Probably my lack of social finesse and inability to perfect small talk is the reason I have a smaller circle of friends than others.  It seems that I am in the minority, or at least I feel that way most of the time when I see those around me with their phones seemingly glued to the sides of their heads.  Also, methods of communication like texting and email give me something to look at to confirm details.  My analytical/nitpicky Virgo traits make me feel much better when I have details in front of me that I can read and rely on rather than my memory of a phone conversation which may or may not have been heard correctly.

Ok, I’m stepping out of the confessional.  Please don’t judge me too harshly.  I like you, I really really like you.  I just prefer to connect with you in any other way than over the phone. 😉

About Beth W.

I try to look for the positive in the people and situations I come in contact with! I believe in the power of positive thinking and I believe that even challenging circumstances can be learning experiences if we have a positive mindset! I'm having fun blogging at: http://picturingpositive.com
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14 Responses to I’d love to hear from you, but please don’t call me.

  1. You text – I’d rather talk to someone than try to type on that little keypad.

  2. I’ll probably keep calling you – sorry – but its the old fashioned way I’m used to.

    • Beth says:

      No worries! It’s not that I won’t talk on the phone, I’m just explaining that I’m not one that is comfortable being on the phone all the time. I certainly don’t want you to stop calling me 🙂

  3. charlieray45 says:

    I can identify with your aversion to phone calls. 😉

  4. Imelda says:

    I hear you. I wonder how people could talk on the phone for hours on end. The phone is for absolute necessities. 🙂

  5. Beth says:

    I know I’ve never wanted to. There are so many better things to be doing…..reading and gardening for two! I love your photos. I was just enjoying the your “fresh” challenge entry and the dragonflies! You have a gift! Beautiful!

  6. Tom says:

    And I thought, I’m alone with my aversion against telephones. The difference is: I don’t even own one … but my wife posesses 3!

    • Beth says:

      Thanks for your comment, Tom! It sometimes seems the larger part of society DOES enjoy talking endlessly on the phone, so it’s nice to find that there are others out there like me 😉 I have many friends and relatives that are “chatty Cathys”, but I never have been one to find enjoyment in that. That’s what makes life great, though, is the fact that not everyone is the same. Thanks for visiting. Have a great day!

  7. Oh, I agree! My mobile phone is generally turned off, and functions more as an answering machine. A great tool if you need it, but I refuse to be its slave.

  8. I seem to baffle everyone with my indifference to answering my phone…if it’s important they will leave a message 🙂 I also often forget to charge it….but never my ipad….its the piece of technology I wouldn’t like to do without. Like you I’m not keen on talking for hours over the phone, facts, arrangements for meeting up for a good face to face chin wag…yes…not much else 🙂

    • Beth says:

      I love your attitude! I keep my phone close, but more for checking email and the like, not for talking 😉 I totally agree that face to face is the best way to connect! I’ve never heard the phrase “chin wag” before….love it! 🙂 Have a great day and thanks so much for visiting and commenting!

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